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The M.E. Show

I’ve been awake since 4.15am and feel like death warmed up so this is just a short post to share details about the M.E. Show for those who don’t know about it.

Gary Burgess is a journalist and broadcaster who was diagnosed with M.E. last year and decided to do a series of podcasts on the disease.  There have so far been 10 episodes, each containing different guests speaking about various aspects of the illness from life with severe M.E. to advocating as an MP in Westminster.

You can find more about the podcasts on the ME Association’s website where you can also listen to all 10 broadcasts.

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Weekly roundup

This week seems to’ve passed in a bit of a blur and I’m not quite sure what I’ve been up to.  My period must be imminent because I’ve been hormonal and emotional and spent yesterday with a migraine, backache and period pain plus I’m not sleeping well again and have been awake this morning since 4.50am :-/

Tuesday I met two of my old codger camera club buddies for lunch which was lovely even if one of them is a typical old geezer who likes to tell me how I should run my life despite the fact I’ve managed successfully for the past 50 years without his input 😉  What is it about some men who feel the need to constantly tell women what they should be doing and how they should be doing it?  I’m sure in their mind they think they’re being helpful but actually they just come across as patronizing and it’s noticeable they don’t have the same conversations with their male friends.

My camera has gone off to Olympus in Portugal for repair and a friend has lent me his old camera in the meantime as he’s currently not using it.  It’s really kind of him but it’s like driving someone else’s car – I have no clue where the controls are or what any of the buttons and dials do.  It’s also nowhere near the quality of my own camera so I’m not even sure if it will be of any use.  I can’t believe my luck that my camera broke now of all times, when I am ridiculously busy working towards two different photographic distinctions for which I can only apply once a year and have looming deadlines.

I managed to get my laptop screen with the dead pixels changed for free though, only for the computer engineer to discover that the new replacement also has dead pixels.  “That’s unlucky” he says.  It’s the story of my life.

My last serious boyfriend was a naturally lucky person.  Good things simply fell in his lap without him trying for them or even particularly wanting them.  I, OTOH, am the complete opposite.  If something can go wrong for me it usually does and bad luck seems to follow me like a cloud.  He has breezed through life with his barn conversion home (which his parents sold to him for £1), his lovely wife, his six figure salary and his triplets while I have struggled, fought and strived for every little thing.  S’not fair *stamps foot*.

Bertie turned 10 this week.  He has a severely herniated spinal disc which causes him a lot of pain and grade II heart disease but other than that he’s still like a puppy and greets each day with excited gusto.  He’s my reason for getting out of bed every morning (usually at 5.45am!) and the reason I took up photography as I’d had no interest whatsoever before getting him, in fact I didn’t even own a camera.   Happy birthday to the light in my life 🙂

 

 

 

 

It’s not just us

Did you know that Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome is not just a human disease?  It’s also been found in animals, including cats, dogs, sheep, cattle and mink and if it’s found in these species chances are it’s also in other species and just not reported.  When I mentioned this to my vet he’d never heard of it and it’s estimated that, like humans, EDS in animals is vastly under-diagnosed.

Skin complications tend to dominate and joint hypermobility is less common, or at least that’s what’s been found so far but to be fair there has been hardly any research done so hypermobility could be more common than is first thought.  Or it could be that animals have one of the variants of EDS which involves more skin issues, a bit like classical EDS in humans.  Vascular EDS was reported in a dog in 2015 so it’s possible that animals have all the variants of EDS that humans have.  If it takes an average of 10 years for people, who can vocalize symptoms, to get diagnosed I’m sure the disease is missed in the majority of animals unless it’s very severe and blatantly obvious.

Cushing’s Disease (hyperadrenocorticism) has been seen to be a complication or co-morbid condition in the majority of cats with EDS.

Although no gene has been identified it appears to definitely be an inherited trait in animals, so affected animals should not be bred.  From the little knowledge available dogs can have severe disease and not live past 2 or 3 years of age, though some with mild symptoms can have a normal lifespan.

I’d love to know the prevalence of allergy symptoms in animals with EDS!  I’d imagine any rashes or blisters are put down to part of the skin symptoms of EDS rather than as a co-morbid condition like MCAS and it’s not like your dog can tell you its nose is bunged up, its lips are tingling or it’s feeling tight chested.

I always find it fascinating when humans share diseases with animals.  People can be accused of being a hypochondriac or their symptoms put down to being ‘all in their head’ but the same can’t be said of animals.  Just because the gene associated with hEDS hasn’t been identified yet doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.  Dogs and humans don’t exactly eat the same food either, so it’s not like their diet can be blamed.  When animals are sick their symptoms are studied without all the mental, emotional and social connotations which are linked to human disease so maybe researchers need to look more at EDS in animals and it might help our understanding of EDS in humans.

 

Invisible

8th August was International Severe M.E. Awareness day, which differs from the regular M.E. Awareness day which is on 12th May.   Severe M.E. needs its own day.  Having been both severely affected and moderately affected I have to tell you that they honestly feel like different illnesses.  Moderate M.E. rules my life but at least I have a life – severe M.E. is like some kind of tortured, living death.  I had no idea a person could be that sick and still be alive.

So yesterday I posted a little bit about severe M.E. on my Facebook page.  This is what I put:

“Today is international severe M.E. awareness day. I had severe M.E. for 10 years and was virtually bedridden for that time – I almost died. I still have M.E., and spend 17 hours every day in bed, though thankfully I’m not as ill as I used to be.

M.E. is the biggest cause of long term absence in school children. It is a neuro-immune disease, usually acquired following some kind of viral infection (which could be anything from a cold to a tummy bug), or sometimes following vaccinations – I became bedridden after travel vaccinations for a holiday in Kenya. The immune system switches on to fight the infection/deal with the jab, something goes wrong (no-one knows what yet) and you never feel well again a day in your life.

M.E. has nothing to do with being tired all the time. 25% of people are severely affected, many of them children, and can be paralysed, have seizures and be unable to speak, walk or eat. It can be fatal.

There is no treatment, no cure and patients are simply left at home alone to get on with it – I never saw a doctor from one year to the next. The lack of help or research is one of the biggest medical scandals of the last 50 years”


Out of my 100 or so family & friends on Facebook, 5 people ‘liked’ my post.  Five! and all but one of them are people who are sick themselves.  That only 1 of my healthy friends took a second to ‘like’ this post or do an angry face or a sad face to show me support or any kind of compassion leaves me speechless.  I feel like fucking unfriending the lot of them.

If I can’t even get the people in my life who know and supposedly care about me to see me or acknowledge my situation it’s no wonder we can’t get the rest of the world to engage.  I really am alone and invisible.

Weekly roundup

Hurrrahh, I finally feel like part of the human race again and it is fabulous 😀  This week I’ve suddenly perked up for no reason I can fathom.  I’m sleeping through without getting up to pee, my brain fog has lifted from severe to normal-for-me (which is still shit but liveable with) and my energy has also returned to normal-for-me (which again is still shit but at least I’m not spending 15 hours a day asleep and the rest of the day lying on the couch wishing I were asleep cos I’m so ill and exhausted).  On the downside my butt pain is worse and my SI joint is killing me to the point where I can’t sit in one position for long without shooting pains down both legs and I’ve done something to my right wrist which is now all bandaged up but, hey, I’ll take it if it means my energy is no longer AWOL.

Sadly that’s the end of my good news for this week, but at least I’ve been able to deal with the crap that’s been thrown at me because my health has improved – silver linings an’ all that 😉

Having spent most of last week in bed feeling awful I decided to take my new found energy down to the river for a couple of hours to see if I could get some photos of a Black Head Gull I’d spotted while out with Bertie.  It was a lovely day, warm but not hot, and after the Gull arrived almost on cue I spent a lovely hour taking pictures.  In fact, I took so many my memory card became full so I went to remove it to insert a new one…………..and it wouldn’t come out :-/  The little spring which ejects it just wasn’t working, so I grumpily had to abandon my morning out and go home.  To cut a long story short it’s obvious my camera needs repairing, so I tried to raise a repair ticket online.  Would it go through on the Olympus website?  That would be a big fat no, so after 1½ frustrating hours I gave up and will have to ring them tomorrow.  The thought of having to send my camera off, then being camera-less for ages, makes me want to weep and as I’m already overdrawn at the bank and August has only just started I have no clue how I’m going to afford to pay to have it fixed.

Yesterday I received an email off a member of my Camera club.  She’d been talking to a mutual friend who moved away last year but is now back home and he told her about my photography website, not knowing that it is a private website I only use for close friends and family.  It contains all the new images I’m using for competitions in the new season and I don’t want other club members to be able to see them and pinch my ideas (which has happened before!).  He’d tried to remember the address from memory, giving her part of it, and she’d Googled this to try looking for the site.  I nearly had kittens, because in googling all sorts of connotations she might have found this blog.  It’s one thing blogging anonymously about my life and health to total strangers (ie all of you) and something else entirely when people you barely know in your home town can read all about your private life.  Honestly, I felt sick.

I speak from experience.  I wrote a blog when I adopted Bertie which was followed by a friend of a friend and I stupidly mentioned my health blog on there.  This person then read this blog, even though he’s not sick and barely knows me, then gossiped about everything I’d written with my neighbour (our mutual friend).  She then quizzed me on all aspects of my private life, from my finances to sex, and I was mortified.  I’d HATE for anyone at my camera club to be reading this blog.  So now I’m panicking.

Last night I decided to transfer all the photos I share on here which people who know me would recognize onto another website and will link to them from here.  So I went to set that up yesterday, which should have taken about 20 minutes.  Two hair tearing hours later I couldn’t get the new site to verify, so am now waiting to hear back from support.

In the meantime, I noticed my emails weren’t downloading to my desktop.  Another 2 hours of stressful faffing later I’m now waiting for support on that.

My laptop, which is only two years old, has suddenly developed dead pixels.  WTF?!  I’ve tried all the fixes and none have worked so I now have a totally fucking annoying black mark right in the middle of my screen which I can’t afford to get fixed.

Half of the lights under my kitchen counters stopped working and I’ve no idea why.

Maybe I shudda stopped in bed………

As I’ve had a very stressful couple of days my bezzie has taken pity on me and we’re meeting for lunch out today which I’m really looking forward to.  I’m ready to be pampered a bit, even if that’s only someone else cooking my lunch.  Afterwards I’m taking my Dad through to the city for a repeat MRI scan on his back in preparation for his appointment to see the spinal surgeon in a couple of weeks.  He’s struggling so much now I do hope his surgery takes place soon so that he can get back to the walks he loves.

However, first I need to get out of my pit, get dressed and take Bert out.  He’s sitting here nudging me with his nose to tell me time is ticking on.  I love him to the moon and back, even if he has left slimey snot all the way up my arm 😀

 

Judgement

When we have an invisible disability or illness we often face judgment.  Judgment when we park in the disabled bay then get out of the car looking like we’re perfectly fine.  Judgement that we are unable to work so claim welfare.  Judgement that we don’t attend family gatherings.  Judgement that we keep flaking on friends.  Judgement that when we open the door to the postman we are in our pjs at 4 o’clock in the afternoon.  Judgment that all our tests come back normal yet we claim to be sick.  And I’m sure many of us have been on the brunt end of judgemental comments online – my life is constantly judged here on my blog.  It’s painful, can be humiliating and makes us defensive and therefore angry.  My life is no-one’s fucking business but my own and so long as I’m not hurting anyone I don’t see why a complete stranger in a car park, the postman, my neighbours, a troll or even some family members feel they have a right to pass judgement.

Having said all that, my friends will tell you I’m a very black and white person.  For me there are few, let alone 50, shades of grey.  I don’t care that you had an absentee Dad and that’s why you became a druggie and robbed my house – you’re a grow up now and in control of your own actions.  If you’re on welfare don’t have babies you expect the rest of us to keep – contraception is free in this country.   Don’t tell me you love animals if you eat meat for dinner.   I could go on, but I won’t cos you’ll judge me.

I’m particularly judgmental when it comes to driving.  I was in a serious car accident in 2004 which was caused by a speeding driver who caused me to flip my car then just sped off.  I rant constantly at other drivers because I’m fearful that their careless behaviour will affect my life.  Laws are there for a reason and we should all abide by them, right?  So it may surprise you to learn that this week I broke the law while driving and make no apologies for it.

My Mum has been very unwell recently and struggling to breathe.  I rang her GP and was told she would ring me back.  4½ hours later I was in the car sat at traffic lights when the phone rang and I could see it was the doctor.  After waiting so long to speak to her, and knowing how poorly my Mum was, there was no way I wasn’t going to take the call even though in the UK it’s illegal to use a mobile phone when driving.  So I press ‘Answer’ and put her on speaker.  Just then the lights changed to green and I had to drive round the roundabout.  To be fair I never once took my eye off the road, there are no pedestrians and my car is automatic so I only need one hand to steer (even drivers who have gears only drive with one hand round the roundabout as they use the other to constantly change gears due to the traffic lights).  So even though I knew I was doing something wrong I wasn’t putting anyone in danger.  I said to the GP “I’m driving at the moment, can you just wait 2 minutes until I get to a lay-by so that I can pull in?” and as I was saying this I heard beeping behind me.  A van pulled up in the next lane and the woman in the passenger seat was gesticulating and yelling at me to get off the goddamn phone.  I get it and in her shoes I’d probably feel the same way.  I was breaking the law after all.  However, her shouting distracted me way more than the sodding phone call and I felt so shook up I was trembling by the time I managed to pull over.  I cried all the way home.  I was already stressed as my Mum was ill, I was feeling poorly myself and didn’t need this stranger’s judgement on top of everything else.

It was a big lesson for me.  Maybe there are more shades of grey than I give credit for.  We have no idea what’s happening in other people’s lives.   Those who judge me for parking in a disabled bay have no idea it’s the first day I’ve made it out of bed in a week and maybe the people I judge have valid reasons for their behaviour.  In future I’m just going to stop commenting on other people’s lives.  It’s none of my business and I’m not in possession of all the facts.

 

 

 

Weekly roundup

I wish I could begin this post by saying I’ve had a great week for a change but sadly I’d be lying.  It’s been shit.  I am poleaxed by exhaustion to the point where I feel I may be on the verge of an M.E. relapse, something I haven’t had in years.  My limbs feel like concrete and my blood is poisoned with achy, fluey weakness.  I’m assuming my hormones are to blame – I seem to be blaming them for everything lately – and I know the Menopause has caused relapses for other women with M.E.

I am definitely having vasomotor events, just no flushing.  They happen at roughly the same time each day, between 6-8pm and 6-8am, which I thought was totally weird until I Googled it and discovered that oestrogen is lowest at those times of the day and other women had experienced the same thing.  I am learning so much about my body at the moment, which under other circumstances would be fascinating but under current circumstances I couldn’t care less about – I just want the symptoms to bugger off.

I am sleeping for England.  After having 2 months of being woken several times a night to pee sleeping through is wonderful but on the flip side going back to sleep at 10am and then again at 3pm and then again at 8pm means there’s very little of the day I’m actually conscious.  Nothing is getting done.

My brain fog is seriously bad and I feel like I’m being drip fed a mild dose of general anaesthetic.  I am dizzy, spaced out and totally unable to think straight.  Even watching my favourite TV programmes is beyond me let alone doing any photography.

I am hurting all over.  I’ve had bowel and stomach pain for days, a bit like when my period is about to start (which isn’t about to happen cos I’m only on day 8 of my cycle).  My back in particular is constantly painful and not helped by the fact I have some kind of butt strain, in both buttocks.  Not on my actual bum cheeks more underneath and at the top of my inner thighs at the back.  I’m assuming it’s my adductor magnus or gracilis muscles but why both should be strained at the same time is a mystery.  Walking is painful because I constantly have ‘the burn’ even just pottering round the house.  The very last thing I needed was a red hot arse on top of everything else 😉

I am also plagued with cramp for reasons unknown.  Getting dressed, moving in bed or just stretching my legs makes them go into painful spasm.  Before anyone mentions magnesium or indian tonic water I know all about them thanks, having been ill for some considerable time.

To add insult to injury I’ve also had a 2 day migraine this week and toothache.  Yippe-fucking-doo.

Despite my body catastrophically failing me, however, I am trying to refuse to give in and still went out for lunch with my closest friend at Camera Club……..who told me she is moving to the North East 😦  Honestly, I could have bawled.  We get on really well and I have so few friends to start with that I was gutted.  Talk about kicking a girl when she’s down.

On Thursday I had to drive to the city for a mammogram.  I can’t remember half the journey and am amazed I got there in one piece, but at least it’s over and done with.  I’m not going to lie though, having it done nips like a bitch.

The only bright spot on my horizon was that I won another medal in an International Photography salon, this time a Special Jury Award in India for my Swallow! picture.  I currently have several ideas for photos in my head and it’s massively frustrating to not be well enough to do any of them.

It’s now 7.30am.  I woke at 6am, having slept for 8 hours, and I’m already seriously ready to go back to sleep and if it weren’t for the fact my tummy’s rumbling I’d do just that!