The older I get, the more people irritate me. I can no longer deal with fuckwits who think their opinion is the only one allowed, and cyberspace is full of them. They are right and I am clearly an idiot who needs to be educated like a clueless child. Just typing that gets my blood pressure up.
I’m having some stressful, worrying issues with the house I’m buying (more on that on my renovation blog) and am on the verge of checking myself into the nearest sanitorium. One of the problems relates to sewage because new, and confusing, regulations came in on 1st January which affect everyone in the country buying or selling a rural, off-grid property. Wanting to connect with others going through the same thing, I went on the building forums and found loads of posts about the issue, but virtually all the posters seemed clueless as to what was actually going on. Trying to be helpful, I wrote about my experience and what I’d learned.
Instead of anyone saying “thanks for that, it’s really helpful” within 30 seconds someone had challenged the post, picking every word I’d used apart. They don’t know, of course, that I have a brain injury, am dyslexic and struggle to write just about anything, but even so how fucking rude. I was interrogated about my situation like I was on trial when all I’d tried to do was be helpful. For all they knew I could be 20 years old and this could be my first, scary house purchase.
It happens a lot online. You write something and immediately someone disagrees. You aren’t allowed to have an experience which differs to theirs, or an opinion which differs to theirs without them jolly well letting you know about it. What is their intention I wonder? To publically make you look like a dick? Or to make themselves appear superior? To try to make you change your outlook to meet theirs? To change your personality, culture or beliefs so you are more like them? What’s it all about? Why can’t we let people have a voice which differs to ours?
I’ve been accused here on my blog of not liking people who disagree with me, which isn’t the case at all. You can disagree all you like……………..just do it in your own space. This blog is my space, for my experiences and opinions. If, every time I post something online someone immediately tells me my views aren’t shared by them, it feels like a continual battleground. A place where I’m constantly defending my viewpoint or having to explain my experience. It’s absolutely exhausting and I’m tired enough already.
The Brexit situation springs to mind. Although I didn’t vote to leave, I increasingly found myself defending the Brexiteers because the Remainers were really, really bloody annoying. They harped on relentlessly, shoving their viewpoint down other people’s throats at every single available opportunity. They just couldn’t accept that other people didn’t want what they wanted. They knew better y’see. Their take on the Brexit situation was the right one. The fucking arrogance of that! In the end, I stopped sharing my opinion online about Brexit because I couldn’t face being pounced on by the Remainers . They stifled my voice. They made me withdraw from the debate. From society. They basically bullied anyone who didn’t share their view into silence. How dare they?!
There are lots of people’s views online that I don’t share. But unless they are hurtful (racism, sexism, threats etc.), or unless I’ve been specifically asked what I think, I just keep my mouth shut. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and I’m not sure what my intention would be in telling someone “I disagree with you”. What am I hoping to achieve, exactly? At worst it ends in an entrenched row and results in animosity, and at best you both agree to disagree, in which case what was the point?